Friday, September 23, 2005

The Victim and The Narcissist

The Victim sees himself not as a responsible agent in the world, but, as the title implies, he rather sees himself as a victim. His identity, far from being wrapped up in positive endeavors, is wrapped up on himself: how he has been oppressed, how others have been mean to him, how large portions of the world are against him, and how people haven't done as good of a job defending him as they should. In turn, the victimhood of The Victim further victimizes The Victim.

The Victim aggressively seeks out opportunities to be victimized or feel victimized, and this in turn feeds the victim complex manifested by The Victim. The Victim can then publicly display his hurt, his pain, his pathos; he can beat his breast and wallow in self-pity, and he can lobby for the sympathy of others, whereby he can further expound his victimization.

Everybody is mean to The Victim; to see this, merely ask The Victim and take his word for it. This allows The Victim to have a passive-aggressive stance: The Victim may throw stones because, being a victim, he knows --- at least, in his mind he knows --- that the cruel unfair world will thrown stones at him merely for his being who he is.

Such is the life of The Victim, a man who cannot function nor cope unless he can perceive himself to be the object of undeserved wrath, scorn, and tribulation. He wants you to feel sorry for him, but he also wants you to dislike him, so that he may claim in a statement of victimhood that you don't like him despite his really trying, etc.

Next, from the lead paragraph at the Wikipedia, we have the following statement on narcissism:

Narcissism, in psychology is the pattern of thinking and behaving which involves infatuation and obsession with one's self to the exclusion of others. It may be seen manifest in the chronic pursuit of personal gratification and public attention, in social dominance and personal ambition, braggadocio, insensitivity to others (lack of empathy) and/or excessive dependence on others to meet his/her responsibilities in daily living and thinking.

We live in a modern, progressive, enlightened age, where everybody is encouraged to see themselves as victims, to see the world as anti-them or anti-[insert group here]. And, it seems to me that The Victim can't in the end keep himself from being a narcissist, since The Victim must obsess over how the world unfairly perceives him.

We'll try to follow this theme in a few upcoming threads.

2 Comments:

Blogger steve said...

Gee, I wonder who you're referring to?

Excellent post!

Saturday, September 24, 2005 5:34:00 AM  
Blogger GeneMBridges said...

I'm sure the Victim is sitting there all in a dither now, just waiting to pounce.

Saturday, September 24, 2005 1:38:00 PM  

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